Found the relays: https://imgur.com/a/34jKk5v. One is missing! I noticed it was the same pin configuration and color as the one adjacent so I put that one on the empty connector. When I powered on, my headlights would no longer retract, and the rest of the issues remained. That means the connector I detached was for relay retract-down, which is funny cause the manual stated it should be black, and it was in the position of the ASCD relay, which is gray. My cruise control works so I'm assuming the manual is wrong for my car, or vice versa. I'm betting the empty connector was for relay retract-control but I won't know until I find another one of those gray relays.
I also noticed I have a brown relay which should be relay retract-up for Canadian models, but mine is American.